Do parents pass on dysfunctions to their children due to unprocessed rage and a lack of self awareness?

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    Do parents pass on dysfunctions to their children due to unprocessed rage and a lack of self awareness?

    Often parents can be seen and felt to be controlling their 'children' and essentially mind controlling them and programming them with behaviours via a variety of dysfunction causing methods. These can include 'reward/punishment' devices that often include blaming that causes guilt and other similarly heartless devices to attempt to pressure for conformity. The result of this is mass conformity and beings who are effectively being 'bread to become slaves' or 'zombie-like'.

    Often the motivations for this are labelled as 'politeness' or 'love' or 'safety', yet this type of control achieves none of these.

    Every time a parent uses chocolate or some type of hormonally stimulating material as a 'reward' and every time they use a slap or enforce an arbitrary rule of where and when the child can express their essential drive to move their body (their will), a dissonance and conflict is created and a loss of love and integrity occurs. Fundamentally, this means that a loss of love and integrity has already occurred since these choices would not be made if unconditional love and full integrity were present in the parents.

    In exploring the causes and origins of these patterns, a common intuition is received: that the parents are unconsciously enforcing these controls without thinking about why they are doing it and without enough clarity to choose more wisely. Very often they are doing this *'because they did it to me'*, meaning *'because my parents did this to me and i am holding an angry desire for revenge that was never expressed; now i will pass that on to my children'* because this angry revenge is certain that *'they must know what i went through'* without noticing that the child is not the one that caused them to suffer and that passing on this dysfunction is only going to continue the cycle - the revenge is not conscious enough to evolve and change and for this dysfunction to heal.

    Intent to heal and end denial is necessary to know the truth of this and this must be felt to be known to be true.

    Releasing all internal pressure, mentally generated or otherwise,  upon self to control the expression of the emotions is necessary to allow the rage to move and express so that these patterns can evolve. Once healing begins, true heart connection can be established between all involved and mental / vocal words, rules and patterns can be replaced with a more emotion based, heart centred feeling approach to connecting and communication that does not deny the true needs and causes of desires. This will quickly lead to an evolution of inter-relationships and ending of many dysfunctions and rapid healing of many issues - many that were not even recognised previously.

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      • harmony
        harmony

        Good explanation! Love <3

        • Maude Nelly Porchet
          Maude Nelly Porchet

          Very much enjoyed this post. From a human experience we will feel the revenge for the denial of emotional expression. Most of Society's programming is to keep people at that level.

          For my part, everything became very easy to process and transform once i re-alised/re-membered that my Soul made a choice of entry. That i chose my parents, my place of birth and my extended family. Suddenly everything was clear of why i would have made that choice to allow my Soul to gather the gems of the process of this incarnation and to allow my ego self to move from the limited belief system inherited as a child to become the Spiritual adult with a mature positive ego self that reflects the journey in a constructive manner, being supported by a compassionate heart space.

           

          • ura soul
            ura soul

            Maude Nelly Porchet - excellent, thanks for sharing and being more of who you are! the programming is largely in place to attempt to maintain power hierarchy and imbalance for the benefit of the few; plus, also to prevent the 'troubling' emotions from surfacing that people are convinced will kill them - while they remain in denial that controlling the emotions is itself the killer.

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            • harmony
              harmony

              @Maude Nelly Porchet - I too went through his transition when i learned that my soul made a choice of entry.I felt instant relief,and also a lot became quite clear so i was able to drop and work on some beliefs instantly. I am not seeing where revenge comes into anything though..i keep reading that bit but i am none the wiser. :)

              • harmony
                harmony

                Oh okay i see now :)  i have been aware of my choices so chose wisely where some have not.

                • ura soul
                  ura soul

                  revenge generally does require a lack of consciousness - however, since the state of many of the emotions is essentially unconscious (due to denial) - this has meant that despite being generally highly conscious it is still the case the many are holding unconscious emotions that do desire an unloving outcome. it's not possible to know in advance how much of this we are holding since the energy is unconscious and we are not aware of it. the healing path is one where these energies are revived and healed safely, rather than being triggered totally unexpectedly as occurs in so many cases where people turn from 'a perfectly nice individual' into a potentially violent and psychotic personality that 'cannot be reasoned with'. road rage incidents are just one common example of where this has been noticed on earth, but there are many more. i'm not aware of any 'bath rage' incidents though... my suggestions is more baths! :)

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                  • harmony
                    harmony

                    ura soul - oh okay i see.I have been in vehicles with people who's behavior changes each time they drive when it is unlike them,it is very uncomfortable,and now you have pointed it out i have actually seen bath rage,which was the same switch in behavior, so not sure about more baths, maybe more self control..all is becoming clear thank you,

                    • ura soul
                      ura soul

                      oh ok - obviously you hang out in more exciting baths than i do :)

                      control is actually the cause of the problem, not the solution. it is the control of the emotions that denies them their right place and denies them acceptance. they then go 'undercurrent' and surface in whatever moment we allow them to. this approach is unloving, yet few have noticed just how much of a problem this has become.

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                      • harmony
                        harmony

                        ura soul - That is so true!..what you have wrote makes sense. I love & wish for your insight and way with words, Thank you :)

                        I no longer visit our baths just look for places to go 'wild swimming' ;)

                        • ura soul
                          ura soul

                          ah ok, public baths - right.. i was thinking of home baths mainly. i think i've seen some minor bath rage then in that case!

                          although i have always had a focus on language, logic and self expression - it's definitely true that i have been helped by studying both bashar and the right use of will books.

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                          • harmony
                            harmony

                            Ok, that's helpful to know, i follow you, thank you. :)